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5 Important Homeschool Questions to Help Rein in Busyness

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Have you noticed how busy homeschool families are? The biggest homeschool questions being asked these days seem to be related to how we can possibly fit everything in.

That’s not the way it has always been, though.

When I was homeschooled as a child, the homeschool questions were more about how to find resources and opportunities with all of the limitations placed upon us.

At that time, there were strict rules about staying indoors until 3 p.m. Any child out of school before then was often questioned and sometimes reported to the truancy officer. Homeschooling was in its infancy (and not always legal), and besides limited choices in curriculum, there was even less to choose from when it came to enrichment.

With my homeschool graduating class of less than ten, no one thought about holding a co-op, enrichment classes, or starting a basketball league. Piano was about the only extra in those days. These were all homeschool questions that didn’t even occur to us!

That was the “not so good” part of homeschooling during the pioneer era.

What Homeschool Buzzwords Tell Us

In those days, you would hear buzzwords like burnout and unit studies, but rarely did you hear the word busy. Moms stayed at home most of the day, and evenings were filled with family dinner and playing games (most homeschoolers did not have TVs!).

Homeschooling is no longer a rarity but has become a standard third option, and that is radically changing the homeschool questions being asked. Today, homeschooled kids can be seen driving around town at any hour of the school day. With this growth, the doors of opportunity have swung wide open.

In our part of the world, there are dozens and dozens of activities and “extras” to choose from, with the biggest homeschool questions revolving around how to choose what to focus our time and energy on!

With homeschooling’s expansion and acceptance, the word burnout has dwindled due to the local community, the lack of stress which pioneers felt to “prove” the homeschool way, and online social networking. Unit studies are no longer the new kid on the block. Now there are classical education and the Charlotte Mason approach, along with hundreds of other options.

These days, the buzzword for homeschool mommies is definitely busy (which can lead to its own form of burnout)! I hear it around my friends and at conventions, but mostly out of my own mouth.

We fill our days with home management and schooling our children in the core subjects. Then we add the extra three to five subjects that we feel pressured into doing because our homeschooling friends are doing them or because it’s new curriculum that looks so neat. Finally, we add meal preparation, church activities, working from home, and homeschool enrichment.

No wonder homeschooling moms say they are busy — they simply are!

While on the one hand this fullness is a blessing, on the other hand it can make tackling the homeschool day or week a challenging task. You have your schedule laid out, you’ve worked out your lesson plans, and you have each day and week organized with checklists.

But it can all fall apart if you are too busy with other opportunities to actually follow the schedule and get the lesson plans done. If this is what you’re facing, the homeschool questions you need to be asking make up an extremely important part of your planning process.

Those Five Important Homeschool Questions

So how do you enjoy the greener grass on the other side without slipping into the slope of homeschool busyness that produces unfathomable fatigue? (Yes, I said that in a MegaMind voice!)

First, make sure that your schedule, lesson plans, and daily lists really are manageable. Then set boundaries that help you buckle down and approach the year well.

Our family found it easiest to accomplish all of this by asking ourselves these five homeschool questions.

1. Is it possible to avoid outside activities before 1 p.m.? It never fails that when we leave the house before lunch, school almost never gets done that day. This is why we make it a priority to schedule the “extras” after the morning school time.

2. Is this activity merely fluff? Take a quick glance over the enrichment classes offered at co-op groups, and you can see that knitting, sign language, Lego building (okay, that sounds like a cool class), and hand bells might just be busy work. When deciding on classes, we evaluate the long-term benefits for each child, not just the momentary hour a week that ends up getting wasted.

3. Will this activity take away from family time? Far too often, dinner around the table is now cut for a class in the evening. Children grow up fast, and memories around the table cannot be replaced with the guitar picking, swing dancing, and baton twirling.

4. Can we really afford this? Homeschooling has become much more expensive when you add in all those “extras.” Be careful not to stretch yourself financially—there is a library, and books are a kid’s best friend!

5. Could I spend this time developing my relationship with my children? As a mom who has seen four out of five children graduate and head out into their adult lives, I know how limited the days of one-on-one time are. If I could do some things over, I would chuck a few “extras” and spend the time having tea or building Legos. You can never go wrong that way!

We busy moms have many choices to make, and these homeschool questions help us make them diligently. As Spiderman’s uncle said, “With great power, comes great responsibility!”

This year, make it your goal to regularly ask yourself these homeschool questions so you can make careful and considerate decisions about where to spend your time, choosing to build better relationships with spouse and children, avoid fatigue, and handle the academics well.

Do you have the type of personality that tackles the plan well, or do you tend to find yourself caught up in a wide range of opportunities beyond the plan? Take our Planner Personality Quiz to find out more about your planner personality type.

With five kids in their teen and early adult years, Rebecca shares the many ups and downs of parenting, homeschooling, and keeping it all together. As the Well Planned Gal she mentors women towards the goal of discovering the uniqueness Christ has created in them and their family and how to best organize and plan for the journey they will travel.

  • Susan T

    Excellent plan Rebecca! Very similar to what worked for our family for the last 19 years with 3 children, who have all graduated now. I may be retired from homeschooling my children, but I am still interested in encouraging others as I wait for my first grandchild – probably a future homeschool student- to arrive. 🙂 God bless you! Susan T

    August 20, 2013 at 1:16 pm Reply
  • Pamela Cooper

    The rate of hard-of-hearing and deaf persons increases dramatically year-by-year due to the amount of sheer noise the general population is subjected to. I would hardly classify sign language as busy work. I am Deaf and American Sign Language is a foreign language.

    August 20, 2013 at 4:45 pm Reply
  • Katerina

    I was really liking the article until I got to the part about “lego building”. Really? In this day of STEM that would be one of the more important classes to take. Actually, it is not called, “Lego Building” in most co-ops. The Lego class that most Lego instructors are teaching at co-ops is Lego Robotics. My son loves his Legos. He started building 8 year old Lego sets when he was 5. By the time he was 6 he was taking the first Lego Robotics class at our co-op. He had to get permission to take the class because of his age. He is 10 now, still has the same teacher- who is a Lego certified instructor BTW and he in the college level robotic courses.

    He knows how to program the robot, build the robot and write the program on a computer. This is huge in our new century of robotics. Robotics is a multi billion dollar industry and growing. As a homeschooler he learns leadership skills putting him in position to own a Robotics company instead of being one of the laborers there.

    If your children like LEGOS, let them play with them all day long! I would buy my son those big sets that cost $120 and it would keep him busy for 12 hours, he only stopped to eat or go potty when he was 5, 6, 7, 8 years old. He is SO smart because of that time. It gave me all that time too to get my work done as we work from home. LEGOS were a great babysitter I used to tease.

    This year, he is taking sign language. He told me the other day, “Mommy, I think that sign language is the most important language to learn after English because it is the language that people who can not hear know. This way someone can speak with them.” What an amazing child of God he is. Yes, we learn Spanish too but now he is really interested in sign language and his co-op teacher is deaf so it is perfect. What a way to bless the world. Imagine ALL the many opportunities to be a sign language interpreter around the country- I am sure without doing the research that this is a field that is in need of more people who can sign.

    August 21, 2013 at 8:13 am Reply
  • christine

    I don’t think the inclusion of sign language or legos as “fluff” was meant to deride either of those subjects. They are, however, usually considered subjects to pursue on top of basic academics such as math, language arts, etc. ASL is a great second language to learn. Lego Robotics certainly sounds great for some kids, but for mine, it would be “fluff” – playtime, basically. I think the intention of the illustration was to urge us to consider what is “fluff” for OUR family. For us, Taekwondo would be “fluff” but music lessons are a priority, whereas for someone else, Taekwondo may be #1 on their list. We only have so many hours in the day, and every hour we add additional activities to our core subjects, is an hour that might have been used on something more relevant for that particular student. I’m thankful as a homeschooler to have SO MANY fantastic co-op and field trip opportunities, but I have to remind myself that it’s not possible to do everything and do it well.

    August 21, 2013 at 8:23 pm Reply

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